I hate when people ask me why I am not in a relationship! When I ask what they mean but the ques, I'm given answers like, "You're pretty" or "You have a great personality" (Er, I do? Ok). And although that's flattering, here's the truth;

Looks, personality, loyalty, inspiration, intelligence and etc are NOT reasons to get into a relationship. You don't get into a relationship for the characteristics your possess or just because you can. Oh c'mon. That's something that I've learned as I've gotten older. A relationship is a lot MORE than all of that. It's a place where you go to give, rather than to take. And it's also a place where the happiness flows from the Heart rather than from all the outside influences that society has so ignorantly classified relationships/love as. And it took me going through hell and shit to realize that I too had been guilty of that ignorance. I had once dated guys just because I could. I had once gotten into relationships just because they were cool and, I was wrong. I had done everything all wrong. Therefore, I made sure that for there few years, I stayed away from relationship and wait until my true love comes. Just have to be patience. I took the time out to figure out who I was, to get a better understanding of what I wanted in life, to better myself as a person and to find true happiness from within. Bcoz without your own life together, you can't contribute to someone else's anyway. And so many people make the mistake of getting into relationship before having those things together. Then they wonder, why the relationships don't work. So yeah, think about all that. Get your life together. And make sure your understanding of the concept is in check.

So now, when people ask me, I smile. I chose to love and respect myself. From that, I've already learned to love and respect the person that God will bless me with next eventho I may not have met that person yet. I chose to get my life together so that I could positively contribute to my relationship with whomever that person may be. I chose to prepare so that I could jump into things knowing that I am Truly ready and happy adn that I'm mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally stable. I chose to Wait until the moment I was truly ready to give, to love, and to live rather than actually setting out to accomplish these tasks in the wrong way!

Love and relationships are so much more than what people make them out to be. People have taken these things and twisted them so much that they've lost their value. I, however refuse.
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