Everyone desperately tries to find the perfect answer. The perfect remedy. The perfect cure. Whether the breakup pierced your soul yesterday, or two years ago, we all have a common ground.

Just how in the world do We get our Ex back (OR) How do we get over him/her????

Unfortunately, I can't tell you the perfect answer. What I can tell you is, what the answer is not.

Breakups are tough. Most everyone can agree with that. However, so many people make mistake of trying to take matters into their own hands, obsess over rekindling the fire and do everything possible to inevitably pushes the Ex further away. Don't be one of those people, please. Don't end up bringing more pain and heartbreak upon yourself. So while you wait for the perfect list of things that will either get you over your Ex or win him/her back over, take a look below.

Here's a few things you should avoid doing:-


1. Don't try to proving to him/her how much you love & care for him/her how he's/she's made a big mistake & how you deserve to be with him/her.

You shouldn't have to prove your love to anyone. And, if you wait patiently & don't settle for less than you deserve, you will find the person who will recognize your love for him/her without you having to constatnly prove it to him/her.


 2. Don't make yourself so available.

Showing up to every basketball game, puprosely walking past him in the basketball court and still calling him every afternoon will do nothing but push him away even more.

Most guys like mystery and when you eliminate yourself from his life, he will wonder about you more. He will start wondering how you are doing, who are you with, and why you don't come around as much.



3. Don't be so dependent to him.

A woman should be able to handle her own with or without a man. Often women both suffocate and frustrate a man when they are so dependent on him.

You shouldn't be so dependent on a man that the breakup is the end of your life because honestly,


And it always will.


4. Don't beg your Ex to come back to you.

This can cause your Ex to lose respect for you and you will end up feeling even worse if your Ex doesn't hear you out. Besides, you are a lot better and worth a lot more than that.




6. Don't try to send your Ex on a guilt trip!

Sending your Ex on a guilt trip may get him back for a short period of time but remember, it doesn't eliminate all the feelings and reasons he wanted to end the r/s in the first place and eventually those feelings will return. And you will be facing breakup again.

If you have to settle on this tactic then you probably weren't meant to be together anyway. Sorry to say that.

7. Don't try buying your Ex's love back.

This is one that I personally hate fucking much! You are so much better than having to buy someone's love!

This sort of tactic can also cause your Ex to lose respect for you too. And it often makes you look pathetic or weak. If you're buying gifts for your Ex, then you're only wasting your own time and money! And often your Ex will use you for the gifts anyway.



8. Don’t become obsessed with showing your Ex how bad you feel about losing him.

This again, goes back to begging him to stay, telling him why you deserve to be with him, being dependent on him and etc .



You determine your own happiness and if you were using this person fill that damn hole for you, you were headed down to the wrong path anyway. Again, you shouldn't have to prove your love or try forcing him/her back by making instilling feelings of guilt!


And, most importantly,

10. Don't result to settling for rebound!!

This is probably one of the biggest mistakes that everyone makes. So do I.
Let me guess, you will make him jealous, am I right?? Well, yes. This may be true but a rebound is only a temporary solution to a problem that may very well be permanent!

Think about it,
“ How the fuck would you feel if you found out you were a rebound?!!
How would you feel if you were faliing for a guy and you find out that he is still in love with his Ex and was only using you to get over all those feelings or making him/her jealous?!!
Wouldn't you feel like crap huh? ”

“ Getting a rebound is only covering all the feelings that you still have for your Ex. They don't fucking eliminate them.  ”



You have to be mature and respectful enough to take the time off after a breakup to get over all those stupid feelings yourself before you bring someone else into it. You owe that much to your next love.

In a way , a rebound is a way of lying to the person you are with. You know good and well, that you still have all these old feelings for your Ex, so why are you using this person to fucking get over that?!! This person deserves to be with someone who can love him how he should be loved and he just can't get that if you're still fucking stuck on your Ex. And, I know you need time to do that.

Getting into r/s immediately following, prematurely or before all the old feelings have faded can be a set up for failure. It can bring you on new drama, pain and even heartbreak!



I knew a friend. She was even guilty of this tactic herself and she ended up cheating on her new boyfriend with her Ex that she was in love with all long. She wasn't honest with herself. She had known where her heart belonged and it wasn't with the rebound.


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